Between Selves

Posted November 7th, 2016 by Candice

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Recently I attended our regional SCBWI conference.  It was a great conference, as always, and like old home week.  Lots of people came up to me:  Hollins students, retreat attendees, critique clients, workshop attendees, even someone who heard me speak at a romance writers panel in 1982 (“You were a girl!”).  I was pleased that people touched base or shared great news.  But it seemed they sprang away like gazelles while I spluttered, “Wait!  Here’s what’s happened to me . . .”

I realize that after nearly 40 years in the business, I’m sort of a fixture: Oh, that’s Candice Ransom, she’s published a gazillion books.  I won’t deny that it’s nice to be well-published, but it isn’t always a picnic.

I came home from the conference wondering why I hesitate to mention my news.  A large part of this reticence stems from a mother who told me never to brag.  And she practiced this herself.  If, for example, my aunt boasted that my cousin had made all A’s and one B, Mama would rather be thrown under a semi than report that I had made straight A’s.  (This was after my early high school years in which I’d flunked Home Ec, P.E., algebra.)

Why did I feel isolated among people who love children’s books as much as I do?  I watched and listened to the participants.  They were bright-eyed with excitement and I could tell many were on the cusp of wonderful things.

Some of my hesitation to join in was my natural shyness.  I’ve never felt comfortable in large groups, even if I know everybody.   Then, too, I sense when I come to this conference each year, I’m a different person, in a different place.

Five years ago, I believed I’d finally reached the writer self I’d launched myself toward for so long.  But things went wrong and I was tangled in confusion and frustration.

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A few days ago I stumbled on an essay by my favorite writing teacher, Heather Sellers.  In the essay, which is about her favorite writing teacher, Sellers says that “all of us, always, are between selves . . .”  It makes perfect sense.  I’m between selves again.  Not exactly here or exactly there.  Yet.

If Sellers is right, then everyone at the conference (and anywhere else) was between selves.  Many were coming into their own as writers, connecting with the right agent, meeting an empathetic editor, hearing the one piece of advice that resonated, writing down the one sentence that jolted them from a rut, jotting down the title of the one book they needed to read.  Some, however, may have been experiencing a kind of fugue, and were waiting for the fuzziness to clear up.

That would be me.  I’ve shed the husk of that recent failure, but I’m still crawling toward who I can be.  As Sellers says, “We forget how painful it is [sometimes] to be between selves . . . and that it is in that desolate gap that everything true and useful is happening.”

I’m taking notes, Ms. Sellers.   And if I actually reach that “person-in-the-making,” I know I probably won’t get to stay there long.  But that’s okay.  Maybe the leap to the next self won’t be as far.

Now I will tell my news for this year:

  • I have a new agent who makes me work and gives me hope, the best combination ever.
  • I have a three-book contract from Random House for three more Step into Reading Level 1 readers.
  • I have just been signed to write the sequel to my 2017 picture book, Amanda Panda Quits Kindergarten.
  • I am working on a nonfiction book with National Geographic.
  • Next year I will have five new books out!

 

 

 

 

 

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12 Responses to “Between Selves”

  1. jama says:

    Congrats on all the new books and your new agent! Sound Sounds like a good match.

  2. jama says:

    Your blog is playing games with me this morning.

  3. Elizabeth D says:

    WooHOOOOOO!!!!! Hugs, e

  4. Donna says:

    Congratulations! I know that you were brought up to avoid bragging. Me, too. But I’ve come to realize that embracing our gifts is not bragging at all.

    And as we let our own light shine,
    we unconsciously give other people
    permission to do the same. –Marianne Williamson

    Thanks for the chance to shine!

    • Candice says:

      It’s so hard to talk about any successes because people tend to think, Well, it’s you. I’m not really a book factory and have had lots of lag years (like this one) to prove it.

      But yes, it feels good to shine a little!

  5. Kathy Horan says:

    Yea! Candice. I’m so glad to hear you are writing new things again. I look forward to reading your work.

    Between selves,
    Kathy

  6. Lorri Cardwell-Casey says:

    A great big high-five and a whoohoooooo of congratulations, Candice! That’s a wonderful list of accomplishments and after doing this for so many years (without your huge successes), I am always excited for fellow writers and good news, knowing how tough this business is.
    A great big thank you for your topic–“between selves” is exactly what I needed to read about and ponder upon. It’s brilliant and I appreciate you passing it on from the writing teacher, because it’s so human and apt for all of life, but especailly for creators.

  7. This is amazing news. High five babe!

  8. Joan Waites says:

    Congratulations, Candice! What a wonderful year you have coming up! Wish I had a chance to chat with you at the conference, but glad to hear all your good news! Hope to see you there next year if not before.

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